More and more people seem increasingly
difficult to find happiness, whether because of family matters or work.
New research from Carnegie Mellon University
also revealed that the stress levels of Americans continues to increase over
the past 25 years, even 1 in 10 people reported taking antidepressant drugs.
Usually the stress and unhappiness come
from yourself so that an expert said that to overcome them, everyone should be
aware of what has been done to bring the stress and feelings of the unhappy.
For more details, see the 10 common mistakes
that you usually do to ruin the mood and lead to unhappiness and what to
do to deal with that.
1. Pondering the Past
Each person must have experienced trauma in
his life. One way to deal with that trauma could distinguish the person a way
to get happiness.
A study published in the journal Psychological
Science reveals that it is always thinking about the past is the main cause of
clinical depression.
This is because many people suffer from what
is called selective memory bias. The study, led by expert Dr cognitive
neuroscience. Elizabeth Kensinger of Boston College revealed that people tend
to remember more negative events in the past rather than positive events.
The more bad things in mind then they will be
more likely to be too stressed about it and exaggerate its impact on life in
the present.
The past can not be changed but think about
giving a feeling of helplessness and a strong bitterness.
2. Chasing Popularity or Money
Many scientific studies show that the wealth,
luxury goods and fame have little effect on happiness.
Survey of a number of American billionaires
and published in the journal Social Indicators Research found that as a
community, they are not happier than the average middle class American.
Only a few of American billionaires who claim
to be happy but no one said that the cause is money. So what makes them happy?
The average claim overflowing with warmth and love from their partner and find
her destiny.
Another study from the University of Rochester
showed that people who pursue popularity as the main purpose of his life would
not be happy than those who have higher ambitions.
3. Worrying About the Future
Pondering the past can indeed cause
depression, but this is the same as worrying about the future.
Research conducted by psychologist Suzanne
Segerstrom of the University of Kentucky found that the more time spent someone
to think about 'what if something bad happened' then they are more likely to
imagine what would actually happen. This obviously raises emotions pointless
and wasting your time.
This will not only cause anxiety, but research
published in the journal Circulation has also indicated the risk of coronary
heart disease by shortening the survival rate.
4. Obsessed With Physical Appearance
At a later time, the beauty will fade, so if
you're obsessed with it then your happiness will go too.
A study in the Journal of Positive Psychology
suggests that a model at the top of her beauty though often feel happier and
have more psychological problems than his colleagues.
Another study in the Australian and New
Zealand Journal of Psychiatry that looked at children aged 9-12 years found
that those who believe beauty is a source of happiness is more likely to get
depression than people who do not think so.
Beauty makes people become dependent on the
evaluation of others. This creates anxiety because the hope of happiness will
be provided by acquaintances and strangers that opinion or way of thinking can
not be controlled by people who are crazy about physical appearance.
5. Doing a Bad Habit Automatically
Habits appear after repeatedly until the
subconscious can do without planning. The problem is, many people with bad
habits are usually done automatically without being aware that such habits keep
him away from the achievement of goals and happiness.
Research published in the journal Scientific
American revealed that the number of 'failure to obtain happiness' was actually
comes from bad habits, instead of the inability to achieve happiness itself.
The good news is, once you realize that some of the habits sabotage your
happiness, a study conducted by Phillippa Lally and published in European
Journal of Social Psychology shows that you can change in just 18 days.
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